Today I want to write about a topic which i had a rather not good conversation. Dhe feels i'm immature, well that's her opinion. I thought in this free world everybody is entitle to their own belief and opinion. We should others opinion and never say that they are weird or even worst calling them 'immature'. Well that's life not everybody understand you but its okay some one who reads this will appreciate.
The conversation begins, me telling her about my current encounter in life, surrounded by jealousy and people telling lies about me. She said take things positively. She believes in positive thinking and couldn't be bothered about what others say. She like to mix with people with positive attitude and never talks about others. I do agree with her that's good attitude. But what I was telling her was about somebody who is so jealous about me in reality and should i take it as positive. The conversation went into disagreement. Anyway for me its good to have differing opinions. But calling me weird and immature that's too much. In the first place is it the positive attitude which she believes in?
Let me briefly write a bit on positive thinking. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health. Overcome negative self-talk by recognizing it. Self-talk is the endless stream of thoughts that run through your head every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information. If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you're likely an optimist — someone who practices positive thinking.
Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
* Increased life span
* Lower rates of depression
* Lower levels of distress
* Greater resistance to the common cold
* Better psychological and physical well-being
* Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
* Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
Those explanation on positive are all taken from the Internet. But not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. There's nothing wrong with positive thinking (actually, it's key) but positive thought in a vacuum, without an active approach to any given agenda, is useless. Thought creates, but only in partnership with action. We don't want ending having a "false sense of the positive". Now comes the Reality. If one keeps on having positive thinking but in reality he suffers than positive thinking alone won't help.
Sometimes its also god for human beings to think about all the negative things in life in order to avoid it from repeating again or making the same mistakes again. History repeats itself. In Quran or Bible, God repeats certain verses; to remind human because they repeat the same mistake again and again.
I'm not telling, I'm great and always right. The same thing goes to others including her. Respect others views though its right or wrong. We don't know what others are experiencing in life. Simply throwing some advice may help sometimes but on the other hand, it may hurt them further.
8 comments:
interesting post.
i'm not taking sides - either yourself and your lady friend - but i think it is also important to be realistic in life. whilst it is good to be positive, but it also helps to be realistic. and to be truthful about your own feelings. i don't think it is immature, nor it is strange for you to feel a certain way on certain situations.
but on the other hand, you need to also accept that whatever the lady friend said/advised, could be of her honest opinion/criticisms. she may mean no harm.
or perhaps, you both are being immature in giving and taking advises.
have a great day.
Penghasad ini bagaikan lalat bangkai; yang busuk dicari, jika jatuh ke dalam minyak wangi ia mati.
Jika kita melihat orang lain lebih baik daripada kita, berusahalah sedaya mungkin untuk menjadi seperti mereka, bukan berusaha menjatuhkan mereka. Jika ini dapat dilakukan, mungkin Malaysia boleh jadi negara maju pada 2015, tidak perlu tunggu sehingga 2020.
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.
then maybe its time we learn how to get our perception right. i think there's a crystal clear difference between fresh meat and corrupt meat. our society needs to learn to appreciate talents, not kill them.
sillytoe first u sound like a professional adviser but at the end when u said we both are immature....
brought u way down...
my opinion is merely based on what you wrote.
you should always see all sides of a story before you can make an informed decision. you may think of a certain angle, but others may see it differently. that's the beauty of the human minds.
i take the latter as a compliment, because i know, being spiteful with/at you isn't beneficial and certainly not worth my time.
not worth your time, but you spent time reading it and moreover provide your comments twice. Anyway, appreciate your views.
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