This month has been a hectic month with lots of wedding invitations. I received 11 wedding invitations. So far I have attended 4 weddings, didn’t attend 2 and the remainder 5 had to be screened as to which ones to attend. Why do couples choose December or January for their wedding date? The main reason is school holidays and it’s easier for family and friends to attend the wedding ceremonies. Some may argue during school holidays and year-end festivities they prefer to spend holidays going on vacation to some exotic spots (Bali, Rome or Paris). Well, its individual choice. If you feel the guy who is getting married is important to you, forget about your vacation trip. On the other hand, if he is someone you barely meet or know, then aloha - carry on with your trip.
Weddings today are way different from those days. First, it’s a very costly occasion. Nowadays to have a wedding ceremony, you have to book halls, hire food caterers, make the pelamin, hire mak andam, hire kompang group, have karaoke or band music, make video clip presentations, have dance shows, hire photographer, make hantaran, souvenirs and many other small things. In order to save cost, some don’t have it in halls but instead on the road with canopies erected in front of their houses. Those who are rich will even go to the extent to have it in five or six star hotels. There is also this wang hantaran which is some sort of dowry money paid by the bridegroom to the bride (the amount depends on the social status of both the family of the bride and bridegroom). So a wedding can easily cost around RM100,000 to RM150,000 but of course, the poor ones will spend much less.
Malaysian weddings also have themes. The costumes of the bride and bridegroom consists of the number of pairs of dress they wanted to wear and the colour combination. They have different dress for akad nikah , different for bersanding and different for cutting the cake. The theme will require the parents and the bridesmaids wear dresses of the same colour as the bride and bridegroom. Even the colour of the table cloth, canopies and decorations will be the same.
Do we really need to spend so much on wedding ceremonies or is it better to spend the money in buying house or honeymoon. It's really a choice to be made by the respective couples. Some say it’s only a one day occasion, why the need to spend so much. Some others, may say it’s a memorable occasion in a lifetime, why don’t we celebrate in a grandly manner.
Note: How was your wedding ceremony, if u r married.
Weddings today are way different from those days. First, it’s a very costly occasion. Nowadays to have a wedding ceremony, you have to book halls, hire food caterers, make the pelamin, hire mak andam, hire kompang group, have karaoke or band music, make video clip presentations, have dance shows, hire photographer, make hantaran, souvenirs and many other small things. In order to save cost, some don’t have it in halls but instead on the road with canopies erected in front of their houses. Those who are rich will even go to the extent to have it in five or six star hotels. There is also this wang hantaran which is some sort of dowry money paid by the bridegroom to the bride (the amount depends on the social status of both the family of the bride and bridegroom). So a wedding can easily cost around RM100,000 to RM150,000 but of course, the poor ones will spend much less.
Malaysian weddings also have themes. The costumes of the bride and bridegroom consists of the number of pairs of dress they wanted to wear and the colour combination. They have different dress for akad nikah , different for bersanding and different for cutting the cake. The theme will require the parents and the bridesmaids wear dresses of the same colour as the bride and bridegroom. Even the colour of the table cloth, canopies and decorations will be the same.
Do we really need to spend so much on wedding ceremonies or is it better to spend the money in buying house or honeymoon. It's really a choice to be made by the respective couples. Some say it’s only a one day occasion, why the need to spend so much. Some others, may say it’s a memorable occasion in a lifetime, why don’t we celebrate in a grandly manner.
Note: How was your wedding ceremony, if u r married.
1 comment:
i have written something on weddings when i was in my final year in the uk.
from my point of view, and the fact that i am already married, it is not the wedding that matters. it is the marriage.
for me, it is acceptable to have a MEMORABLE wedding which doesn't cost a hole in your pocket/wallet/bank account. husband/wife-to-be should understand the after-effect or the post-wedding issues. and i think the authorities like jais or whoever, should include financial management in their kursus perkahwinan so couples would learn the importance of these after-effects and can manage their financials better.
at the end of the day, why the grand wedding but sad endings?
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