Where is the truth.....

There is an old Indian saying that "What you hear with your own ears, is a lie; What you see with your eyes, is a lie; As such, one should examine all angles, analyse and see all possibilities before making any conclusion." So where is the truth ? How do we able to analyse and make conclusion with little information available? Even, if we have information, more oftenly it's manipulated. Read newspapers, see tv reports, hear individual explanations and interviews, the information received differs from one source to another. Even in debates you can't conclude who is telling the truth because both are interested parties. You make your own judgement making use all the information available to you.

There are many cases (robbery, murder, accusations, cheatings and back-stabbing) in the past, on-going currently and even will continue to occur in the future, where the truth is buried forever. Only god knows the real truth. People can make all kind of declarations and oaths to make others believe that they are telling the truth. Do they really tell the truth?

Some even go the extent, making oaths in the name of God, that they are telling the truth. They even say that they are willing to be punished by God, if they are not telling the truth. They make this kind of oaths because they know God won't appear to say that they are telling the truth. Of course, all religion (if not all some) believes that God will punish those who lies and make false oaths. Unfortunately, you either get this punishment only after death or some say the punishment will be given in this life on earth. Well, some do get the punishment without realizing but others don't till they die.

Does the Government, the system, the custom, the religion as well as all those so called set-ups and institutions to protect human rights and the truth, is really functioning well and manage to act fairly. You answer the question yourselves.

Note: I believe that your own conscience is more important than the truth. If you are on the right path, truth will prevail.

Do we have to be nasty....

Life is something beautiful. Everybody wants everyday to be nice, enjoying and a happy moment in their life. Nobody wants a miserable life. In going through the process of daily life we meet or engage with other people, either among family members, working colleagues or even strangers while doing business, meetings and travelling. Of course, during these engagements, there will conversation, communications or arguments. Why not we try to minimise confrontational approach but rather be friendly with everybody. In this way, both parties will feel happy and satisfied with the outcome.

But in life not all human are the same. Some will always be nasty in their approaches. They feel their ideas are the best and others are wrong. They will use nasty words and try to intimidate others. The other party, if they are of the milder and nicer-type, they will just keep quiet and listen. On the other hand, if the other party is equally, the nasty type both will end-up arguing things and confrontational with each others. This is where, often, negotiation fails. No give and take policy or compromise. They often end-up even becoming enermies. Do we want many enermies in life?

The question is do we have to be nasty? If we want good solution or outcomes to any matters we want to resolve, we should try to be nice, accomodative and listen to others first. If others are nasty to us, still we try to be polite and make the other party to realize that they too should be nice. In that way, the world will slowly change to be a better place to live.

Note: I'm nice to the nice ones and avoid nasty ones

Unhealthy situation....

What's going on currently both economically and politically is unhealthy for the country. Economically, the high oil prices and rising food prices have caused inflationary pressures. The people are not satisfied on the explanation provided on the recent oil price hikes coupled with the instigation from the opposition group, Pakatan Rakyat that they can reduce pump price if they rule the country. Politically, the tussle between opposition and ruling party on various issues had also created unnecessary attentions both domestically and internationally. These are issues ranging from judicial independence, police integrity, allegations both the ruling and opposition leaders, corruption, public safety and crime rates as well as slow delivery mechanism. All of which have negative impact on the country. The economic growth has been down forecast by MIER to 4.6 percent for 2008. The share market BSKL is not doing so well. FDI will also be not forthcoming if too many negative publicity were given on the country.

How can we solve these issues facing the nation. First of all, everybody involved should stop making press statements. Freedom of speech is good but there is a limit if it hurts the country's progress and safety. Secondly, the government should stop debating things in the papers. Too many people are making statements and each contradicting each other. This even become worst when the opposition make use of the issues. Everybody involved should sit down and think about the future of the country and not each individuals political career or business opportunities. Secondly, we should all focus on solving the economic problems facing the country especially on how to cope with the rising oil and food prices, reduce inflationary pressures, implement measures to sustain economic growth and to provide the social safety net for the less fortunate groups.

Man comes and goes, same do political leaders and business persons, but the nation had to go on prospering if not the future generation is the one who will suffer and had to deal with the situation. Don't always think about today, the future is equally important. If one wants his country to be prosperous, independent, honoured and well-known then one should think and do things that are beneficial both in short and long run.

Note: My Nation is My Life

We decide our future...

Lately, people everywhere are grumbling about the rise in petrol prices, as a result of rise in crude petroleum prices. If you read newspapers they tell why the crude oil prices are sky rocketing, in such a short time of period. Reasons given being higher demand and shortage of supply. Higher oil prices lead to inflationary pressures around the globe. There is also another major problem i.e food shortages. Reason being given climate changes, the increasing use of some food items such as corn and oil palm for fuel production and again higher demand for those items from China and India. Actually, I'm not going to discuss about the oil, food crises or inflationary pressures but more of how mankind can dealt with these crises.

Look back at history, man had come long way, facing through numberous crises and challenges most of which created by man himself and others are the product of mother nature. Each of these problems or challenges were overcomed or it just fade away after wiping out some human lives. There are also innovation and new creations by humans to deal with the challenges. Among which are the new discovery of cure or medicine for diseases and cutting-edge communications gadjets. Each new creation brings benefits and also adding new challenges for humans in wanting more and more. Humans are innovative creatures.

Having said that humans too are capable of destroying the entire universe. The greed of unlimited wants lead to destruction of mother nature. Rising pollution level and changing global climate are due to human actions.

In actual we decide our future. We shape our world. How long we want the world to last in the galaxy.

Note: Wants should be limited according to one's needs.

Fitting into the environment......

I have been quite busy lately, dont even have time to sit down and write. Just finished another meeting - again everybody talking about problems and gave all kind of solutions. One thing common among all those who came for the meeting is that they all say the good things either about their organisations or about what good things their organisations have been doing so far. It's always others who does not do things or don't perform. Among government agencies people will complain about inefficiencies and bureaucracies. I think even among private sector companies they will blame each other. So who is right and who is wrong. Each organisations as in each individuals, they have their strong points and their weak points. The great people whom I really respect will be those who have the guts to admit both the strong and weak points.

Even among my peers, subordinates and more so among friends, I have been noticing their characters. Some will be boasting, some think they know everything, some are so humble, some feel inferior but seldom you will find one with a combination of telling both about his strong and weak points. Great humans will talk sensibly and know how to fit into an environment. You need to know what to say when and when not to say what. A person should also understand or at least sense whether the person whom you are communicating with, really listen to you. Some are just insensitive to the environment and will act as though everybody likes what they are doing or saying.

Note: I'm quick to understand a person's character but the weak point - I won't tell them that I'm tired of listening to them but instead I will just play dumb listener.

Seeing from another's eyes

Seeing from another's eyes makes us understand what his or her feelings about things. Seeing things from others perspective or point of view, as Christine always used to say is to have empathy. Empathy is the capacity to recognise or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself. It may be described metaphorically as an emotional kind of resonance or mirroring.

In most working environment, decisions made and actions taken are without empathy. It's like when somebody is killed then only you take actions. Most things are implemented without looking at all angles and most importantly without the element of empathy. When failures, complaints or disatisfactions occur, then only one will try to think about remedial measures. In the first place, if you have given serious considerations, you don't even have to think about remedial measures.

Who's fault? Human beings by nature, have egoistic feelings and feel thier ideas are the best or some even have vested interest. As such, it blinds them from seeing from others perspectives.

It's painful to see things happening and you are part of it but helpless to do things differently. Christine is radical, she will say leave the system. I believe in living with the system and changing people's attitude to have empathy in them.

Note: No news from Christine since she left for UK. As I said in my previous entry, new environment, new friends.

People Change, Friends change

In the course our journey in life we meet all kind of people. Some become close friends, one or two even become lovers. However, as time passes by you will or have to go separate ways partly due to work or other inevitable commitments. Before going separate ways, each will promise not to forget each other. Of course, other promises will be made. But as usual as the saying goes "promises are made to be broken". Both initially will communicate alot but after sometimes slowly either one or both will seldom contact. I don't blame either party maybe they are busy. On the other hand, in the new environment they have met new friends. Me too sometimes so busy with daily work and hardly have time to contact long time friends.

So people do change? Of course, people change according to time and place. New place, new environment surely they go for new friends because they are on the same wavelength and have common things to discuss. You are not in the daily diary of them. Well, you have to accept the changes and accept to live a new life with new friends.

Note: I only remember friends who are worth remembering